Compatibility Test

A Personality & Identity

1

Describe yourself in three words. (First ones that come to mind, no overthinking.)

Open answer

2

What does a typical weekend morning look like for you?

Single choice

I wake up early and like to be productive. I sleep in and take it slow. It varies depending on my mood. I adapt to my partner's plans.

3

How would you describe your social energy?

Single choice

Fully extroverted — people energize me. Somewhat extroverted — social but with limits. Somewhat introverted — selective about socializing. Fully introverted — solitude recharges me.

4

How do you react when plans suddenly change?

Single choice

It bothers me — I like structure. I get a bit stressed but adapt quickly. No problem, I enjoy being flexible. I actually prefer surprises and change.

5

What is currently draining you the most in your life? Be honest.

Open answer

6

What are you most proud of in your life?

Open answer

7

You have a tough decision to make. What's your first move?

Single choice

Think alone and trust my gut. Make a pros and cons list. Talk it through with someone I trust. Research and gather data.

8

Is there something in your life you've been trying to change but can't seem to?

Open answer

B Money & Career

9

What's your ideal financial setup as a couple? ⚑ check

Single choice

Everything pooled together, managed jointly. Joint account for shared expenses, rest separate. Fully separate finances, split all costs. Whoever earns more handles the finances.

10

What spending threshold requires a joint decision?

Single choice

$15 and above $60 and above $300 and above I'm fully free with my own money.

11

If my partner got a great job offer in another city/country and wanted to move...

Single choice

I'd move without hesitation. We'd evaluate together — both can compromise. It would be very hard, I don't want to give up my own life here. We could do long distance for a while.

12

What do you think the financial responsibilities of each partner should be in marriage? ⚑ check

Open answer

13

Where do you see yourself professionally in 5 years?

Open answer

14

Which best describes your work-life balance philosophy?

Single choice

Career-focused — work may come before personal life. I try to keep a healthy balance. Personal life always comes first — work is just a means. I don't separate them; life is holistic.

15

What is your attitude toward debt?

Single choice

I hate debt — even a mortgage makes me uneasy. Reasonable debt for a home/car is acceptable. Debt for investment can make sense. Debt has a bad reputation but doesn't bother me much.

C Children & Family

16

Do you want children? ⚑ check

Single choice

Yes, absolutely. Yes, but I'm flexible. I'm undecided. No, I don't want children.

17

How many children are you thinking about? ⚑ check

Single choice

None 1 2 3 or more

18

When you have children, who should be the primary caregiver?

Single choice

The mother — it feels more natural. The father — the mother can pursue her career. Equal split — both work part-time. External support (daycare, nanny) — both work full-time.

19

List the 3 values you consider most important in raising a child and explain why.

Open answer

20

What's your view on religious or spiritual upbringing for children?

Single choice

We should raise our children with religious values. Give them basic knowledge and let them choose. Let the child decide when grown up. I don't want religious upbringing.

21

What are your expectations regarding in-laws and family boundaries?

Single choice

Family is very important — living close is ideal. I love them, but clear boundaries are necessary. Our relationship should be independent — family shouldn't interfere. Keeping distance from family is healthier.

22

If you couldn't have biological children, would you consider adoption? How do you feel about it?

Open answer

23

Which schooling approach feels right to you for your child?

Single choice

Public school is sufficient. Private school is important — I'd invest heavily. Alternative pedagogy (Montessori, Waldorf, etc.) Homeschooling could be an option.

D Conflict & Communication

24

Right after a big argument, what do you typically do? ⚑ check

Single choice

I want to resolve it immediately — I can't wait. I need cooling-off time, then I'll talk. I close the topic — I don't like dwelling on it. I mend things with a practical gesture — food, touch, etc.

25

"Letting it go even when you're right" — what do you think about this? Can you do it?

Open answer

26

When we disagree on a major decision...

Single choice

We keep talking until we reach agreement. We can seek help from a professional/therapist. One of us steps back depending on the topic — taking turns. I prefer to make these decisions myself.

27

How important is apologizing in a relationship?

Single choice

Very important — apologizing takes courage but is necessary. Important, but changing behavior matters more than words. I don't focus on it much — moving forward is key. The wrong person should apologize — if I'm right, I won't.

28

Describe a time your partner (or a past partner) truly hurt you. What did you feel and do?

Open answer

29

When my partner is crying, I...

Single choice

Immediately hold and comfort them. Try to understand and fix the problem. Give them some space. I know how to approach but wait for them to cope a bit first.

30

What do people most often criticize about you? Do you think the criticism is fair?

Open answer

E Sexuality & Intimacy

31

What role does physical intimacy play in a relationship for you?

Single choice

Central — without good intimacy the relationship weakens. Important, but emotional connection comes first. It naturally fades over time — high expectations aren't realistic. It's not very defining for me.

32

How much do you want to know about your partner's past relationships?

Single choice

Nothing — the past is the past. General overview is enough — no details. I prefer open conversation about it. I want to know everything — no secrets.

33

Where does "cheating" begin for you? (Emotional connection, physical contact, digital communication...) ⚑ check

Open answer

34

Meeting alone with an ex or opposite-sex close friend while married... ⚑ check

Single choice

Totally fine — jealousy is toxic. Fine if they let me know in advance. I'd be uncomfortable but wouldn't say it. I'd openly say I'm not okay with it.

35

What are your thoughts on the frequency of sex in a long-term relationship?

Single choice

Frequency matters — if it declines, I see it as a problem. Quality over quantity. It's natural for it to decrease over time. Not a problem if neither of us wants it.

F Lifestyle & Habits

36

How do you feel about hosting guests at home?

Single choice

Open door policy — I love a lively home. Planned, occasional guests — no drop-ins. Home is my sanctuary — as private as possible. Whatever my partner prefers.

37

What are your thoughts on alcohol, tobacco, or substance use — for yourself and your partner?

Open answer

38

How would you describe yourself when it comes to cleanliness and order? ⚑ check

Single choice

Everything must be in place — I'm very meticulous. General order matters but I'm not a perfectionist. I try to keep clean but don't stress about it. I'm at peace with a bit of mess.

39

What's your sleep schedule like?

Single choice

Early to bed, early to rise. Late nights, late mornings. Variable — no fixed schedule. Little sleep works for me — I don't prioritize it.

40

What's your attitude toward healthy living — exercise, diet, regular check-ups?

Open answer

41

What's your idea of a great vacation?

Single choice

Active exploration — a new place every day. Mix — some exploration, some rest. Full relaxation — vacation means recharging. I don't feel the need for vacations.

42

What role does religion or spirituality play in your daily life?

Single choice

Central — my faith and practices shape my life. Important but I avoid strict rituals. Part of my cultural identity but not actively practiced. I don't have a religious or spiritual dimension.

43

What boundaries should exist in a relationship around social media and phone use?

Open answer

G Household Roles & Expectations

44

How should household chores be divided? ⚑ check

Single choice

Equal split — whoever does what. Traditional — woman does inside, man does outside. Whoever has free time does it. I prefer to outsource (cleaner, etc.)

45

What do you think about having your own time and social life independent of your partner?

Open answer

46

In a household where both partners work, what's your expectation about cooking?

Single choice

Both should cook equally. Whoever enjoys/does it better cooks. Mostly takeout or ready meals. The woman should be responsible for cooking.

47

What do you think about a prenuptial agreement?

Single choice

Positive — smart and protective. Could be done if necessary — discussion first. Negative — signals distrust. I've never thought about it.

48

Who should have the final say in a marriage? What are your thoughts on decision authority?

Open answer

H Future & Values

49

What does your ideal home life look like in 10 years? (Where, how, with whom?)

Open answer

50

Would you rather live in a city or outside it?

Single choice

Big city center. Quiet suburb close to the city. Outside the city — small town. Rural, close to nature.

51

What are your political views and worldview? How does it affect you if your partner thinks differently?

Open answer

52

Describe your retirement dream.

Single choice

Early retirement — as soon as possible. Standard retirement age, then rest. I want to stay engaged until the end. I don't think about retirement.

53

Do you tend to regret things you've done, or things you've never done? Can you give an example?

Open answer

54

How should your friendships continue after marriage?

Single choice

Should continue as is — marriage doesn't limit social life. May reduce somewhat — family comes first. Friendships my partner approves of continue. They naturally fade after marriage anyway.

I Deal-Breakers & Health

55

What would you never forgive in a partner? Clearly state your deal-breakers.

Open answer

56

How do you feel about going to couples therapy?

Single choice

Positive — even preventively, before problems arise. I'd consider it if something serious came up. Last resort — I'd prefer not to. Absolutely not.

57

What's your attitude toward mental health (depression, anxiety, etc.)? What would you do if your partner struggled?

Open answer

58

What's your stance on arguments involving yelling, insults, or any form of aggression?

Single choice

Absolutely unacceptable — it's a deal-breaker for me. Tolerable if it doesn't go too far. Everyone does it — it's normal. I might do it too sometimes.

59

What was your biggest mistake in a past relationship? What did you learn from it?

Open answer

60

Your stance on gambling, excessive spending, or addiction?

Single choice

Any of these is absolutely unacceptable. Fine if kept under control. It's everyone's personal choice. I admit I might struggle with one of these.

J Consistency Check & Final Questions

61

How do you react when someone you truly love disappoints you? (Will be compared with Q24) ⚑ check

Single choice

I confront them immediately. I wait, calm down, then talk. I keep it inside and wait for it to pass. It varies a lot by person and situation.

62

If your partner earned significantly more than you, what role would you take at home? (Will be compared with Q9 and Q12) ⚑ check

Open answer

63

What would you do if you found out your partner doesn't want children? (Will be compared with Q16) ⚑ check

Open answer

64

What causes your biggest doubt about going through with this marriage? Be honest.

Open answer

65

What sustains a good marriage? List the 3 things you consider most important.

Open answer

66

Is there something you've never told your partner but want to say?

Open answer

67

How did you feel while filling out this test?

Single choice

Comfortable and open — easy to be honest. A little anxious but it felt important. Some questions were very challenging. There were questions I didn't want to answer.

68

Is there a question you wish had been in this test? If so, write both the question and your answer.

Open answer

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